
Sean Dyche insists he doesn't need a set-piece coach and his old-school methods are the way forward - claiming he's 'got the wrong staff' at Everton if they can't work things out for themselves Everton have no set-piece coach, with likes of Arsenal reaping rewards with one The Toffees have the second best record from dead balls, behind the Gunners LISTEN NOW to It's All Kicking Off! : Why can't Chelsea win the league? They made seven changes and still scored five. Do you think Liverpool could do that? By LEWIS STEELE Published: 22:30 GMT, 5 December 2024 | Updated: 22:30 GMT, 5 December 2024 e-mail View comments For all the talk and eulogising of set-piece coaches in 2024, and Arsenal ’s Nicolas Jover in particular, Everton boss Sean Dyche believes his old-school plan of going without is still paying dividends. Since the boss took over at Goodison Park, Everton have scored more goals than all but the Gunners from dead-ball situations in the Premier League – and the Toffees do not have a set-piece specialist on the coaching staff. But Dyche – who joked he was a ‘dinosaur’ – is adamant his team are using set-pieces as a big asset even without one, with those duties delegated to his trusted lieutenants Steve Stone and Ian Woan, plus lead performance analyst Matthew Hawkes. Asked why his old-school approach has served him so well, Dyche said: ‘Because I’m a dinosaur! No, on a serious note... the way I look at it, my staff have got goodness knows how many games playing. I’m going to say around 1,000. ‘I’ve got 1,000 myself in playing, development coaching, youth team coaching, manager. So if we cannot design a set-piece with a group of analysts – who can see everything that happens on a set-piece of the opposition or us – then I’ve got the wrong staff. ‘So therefore, with that depth of knowledge, I’d use them. I am happy to pass it over to them. That’s not to say there is not a reason for set-piece coaches – that’s up to managers and staff and football directors. Sean Dyche has insisted he doesn't need a set-piece coach amid the rise of the idea Mikel Arteta's Arsenal have enjoyed heavy success from set-pieces in the last two season They scored two more from set-pieces on Wednesday, taking total to 22 since start of last season ‘Seven or eight years ago everyone was like, “Why are you worried about set-pieces? Get it down and play”. Now everyone has re-realised that set-pieces matter! For a long, long time a rough figure is that 25 per cent of goals are from set-pieces. So why wouldn’t you use them?’ Everton’s free-kicks and corners caused havoc on Wednesday in a thumping 4-0 win over Wolves – to end a run of five winless and four without even scoring – and Dyche believes this can be a big weapon in Saturday’s Merseyside Derby. Asked if they were back on point with set-pieces, he added: ‘Not just with delivery but the body language and intent to go and score is different when teams are on it. We looked back there. Read More Torrents of water seen leaking into stands at new Everton stadium AGAIN months before they move in Freedom is the wrong word but intent is better – attack the ball and only see the ball. ‘I told the players that. Just the intent. Jack Harrison smashed one over the bar but he was in the right place. Spot on. I commended him for that and said “fantastic, another day it flies in”. Be in the right place and go with the intent to score.’ Dyche is not fussed about the lack of credit he gets for this and said: ‘Oh, I’m not bothered. I’ve been doing it too long. Now I just get on with my business. I know how the game works, I know how to piece a team together. I get things wrong, I am a human being. ‘Everyone gets it right after the game, the hardest thing is getting it right before the game or during. Worrying about what everyone else thinks is a complete waste of your energy, honestly. What I will say is: Cadbury’s chocolate is still Cadbury’s chocolate. People still buy it!’ Everton Sean Dyche Arsenal Share or comment on this article: Sean Dyche insists he doesn't need a set-piece coach and his old-school methods are the way forward - claiming he's 'got the wrong staff' at Everton if they can't work things out for themselves e-mail Add commentI'm A Celebrity star Tulisa is already 'back at Manchester home' as she leaves Australia early and snubs final amid mental health struggleSecurity heightened for New Year celebrations
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WASHINGTON (AP) — President-elect Donald Trump has promised to as soon as he gets into office to make good on campaign promises aiming and redefining what it means to be American. But any efforts to halt the policy would face steep legal hurdles. Birthright citizenship means anyone born in the United States automatically becomes an American citizen. It’s been in place for decades and applies to children born to someone in the country illegally or in the U.S. on a tourist or student visa who plans to return to their home country. It’s not the practice of every country, and Trump and his supporters have argued that the system is being abused and that there should be tougher standards for becoming an American citizen. But others say this is a right enshrined in the 14th Amendment to the Constitution, it would be extremely difficult to overturn and even if it’s possible, it’s a bad idea. Here’s a look at birthright citizenship, what Trump has said about it and the prospects for ending it: During an interview Sunday on Trump said he “absolutely” planned to halt birthright citizenship once in office. “We’re going to end that because it’s ridiculous,” he said. Trump and other opponents of birthright citizenship have argued that it creates an incentive for people to come to the U.S. illegally or take part in pregnant women enter the U.S. specifically to give birth so their children can have citizenship before returning to their home countries. “Simply crossing the border and having a child should not entitle anyone to citizenship,” said Eric Ruark, director of research for NumbersUSA, which argues for reducing immigration. The organization supports changes that would require at least one parent to be a permanent legal resident or a U.S. citizen for their children to automatically get citizenship. Others have argued that ending birthright citizenship would profoundly damage the country. “One of our big benefits is that people born here are citizens, are not an illegal underclass. There’s better assimilation and integration of immigrants and their children because of birthright citizenship,” said Alex Nowrasteh, vice president for economic and social policy studies at the pro-immigration Cato Institute. In 2019, the Migration Policy Institute estimated that 5.5 million children under age 18 lived with at least one parent in the country illegally in 2019, representing 7% of the U.S. child population. The vast majority of those children were U.S. citizens. The nonpartisan think tank said during Trump’s campaign for president in 2015 that the number of people in the country illegally would “balloon” if birthright citizenship were repealed, creating “a self-perpetuating class that would be excluded from social membership for generations.” In the aftermath of the Civil War, Congress ratified the 14th Amendment in July 1868. That amendment assured citizenship for all, including Black people. “All persons born or naturalized in the United States and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they reside,” the 14th Amendment says. “No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States.” But the 14th Amendment didn’t always translate to everyone being afforded birthright citizenship. For example, it wasn’t until 1924 that Congress finally granted citizenship to all Native Americans born in the U.S. A key case in the history of birthright citizenship came in 1898, when the U.S. Supreme Court ruled that Wong Kim Ark, born in San Francisco to Chinese immigrants, was a U.S. citizen because he was born in the states. The federal government had tried to deny him reentry into the county after a trip abroad on grounds he wasn’t a citizen under the Chinese Exclusion Act. But some have argued that the 1898 case clearly applied to children born of parents who are both legal immigrants to America but that it’s less clear whether it applies to children born to parents without legal status or, for example, who come for a short-term like a tourist visa. “That is the leading case on this. In fact, it’s the only case on this,” said Andrew Arthur, a fellow at the Center for Immigration Studies, which supports immigration restrictions. “It’s a lot more of an open legal question than most people think.” Some proponents of immigration restrictions have argued the words “subject to the jurisdiction thereof” in the 14th Amendment allows the U.S. to deny citizenship to babies born to those in the country illegally. Trump himself used that language in his 2023 announcement that he would aim to end birthright citizenship if reelected. Trump wasn’t clear in his Sunday interview how he aims to end birthright citizenship. Asked how he could get around the 14th Amendment with an executive action, Trump said: “Well, we’re going to have to get it changed. We’ll maybe have to go back to the people. But we have to end it.” Pressed further on whether he’d use an executive order, Trump said “if we can, through executive action.” He gave a lot more details in a . In it, he said he would issue an executive order the first day of his presidency, making it clear that federal agencies “require that at least one parent be a U.S. citizen or lawful permanent resident for their future children to become automatic U.S. citizens.” Trump wrote that the executive order would make clear that children of people in the U.S. illegally “should not be issued passports, Social Security numbers, or be eligible for certain taxpayer funded welfare benefits.” This would almost certainly end up in litigation. Nowrasteh from the Cato Institute said the law is clear that birthright citizenship can’t be ended by executive order but that Trump may be inclined to take a shot anyway through the courts. “I don’t take his statements very seriously. He has been saying things like this for almost a decade,” Nowrasteh said. “He didn’t do anything to further this agenda when he was president before. The law and judges are near uniformly opposed to his legal theory that the children of illegal immigrants born in the United States are not citizens.” Trump could steer Congress to pass a law to end birthright citizenship but would still face a legal challenge that it violates the Constitution.
What's New Egungun of Lagos faces backlash over leaked private video By Musa Adekunle 02 December 2024 | 9:56 pm Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Share on WhatsApp Share on Telegram Nigerians on social media have criticised popular content creator Kuye Adegoke, aka Egungun of Lagos, following the leak of his private video. In the video, he is shown brushing his teeth while wearing shorts and momentarily revealing his private parts. Before the video emerged, his wife, Pashotah, had already addressed a blackmail threat concerning her... Kuye Adegoke Nigerians on social media have criticised popular content creator Kuye Adegoke, aka Egungun of Lagos, following the leak of his private video. In the video, he is shown brushing his teeth while wearing shorts and momentarily revealing his private parts. Before the video emerged, his wife, Pashotah, had already addressed a blackmail threat concerning her husband’s private videos. In an Instagram post shared on Sunday, 1 December 2024, she wrote: “Hi guys, someone is blackmailing me with my husband’s videos. My name is Pashotah, and y’all know my husband. Obviously, I know so many people have wanted to bring both of us down, including guys and girls.” She went on to defend her marriage, saying the relationship is built on years of trust and loyalty: “This relationship has been coming for over 6-8 years when we both had nothing. This relationship is built on trust, understanding, loyalty, commitment, and so many more. So there is nothing that can bring us down, not even now.” The incident has sparked massive reactions across social media, with many questioning Egungun of Lagos’ public persona as a family man. Some users speculated on how the video became public, with opinions divided. While some feel it is a betrayal of his wife’s trust, others suggest it might be an old clip or a deliberate attempt to tarnish his reputation. Mixed Reactions A user on X.com, @GodwinRobinson8, wrote: “So the yeye blackmailer later dropped the video! I’m heartbroken :broken_heart: and I just feel for the wife rn! But I know she was ready for this. WHO CAST EGUNGUN OF LAGOS?” Peace Ighodaro praised the wife, saying: “Egungun’s wife is the perfect definition of an understanding wife.” However, Saida Boj alleged, “Na pity make Egungun engage his wife. The day I went for an interview at his place, he was looking at me lustfully in front of his wife. The girl that came out is one of the many girls he has messed with.” The debate over the wife’s stance also drew varied opinions. @Abbietrends said: “So she should leave him because of that? I can’t leave my husband because he cheated.” But @drpenking wrote, “Saying that Egungun only makes content and doesn’t cheat with those baddies is like saying that a stripper only twerks on stage but is loyal to her husband. I always knew it would cast one day.” Others, like @Chance Da Mayor, supported the wife’s choice to stay: “Wait oh! You all want her to leave her husband? Her place is with her husband oh, forget the blackmailer issue. I respect her defense.” Meanwhile, @iamrichygold predicted, “Why do I feel like Egungun’s wife will still come for him later :thinking_face:? Can’t shake off that feeling! I can’t but feel it’s a ticking time bomb for him.” As of now, Egungun of Lagos has yet to comment on the scandal, and his wife has not released any further statements. Whether this storm will blow over or escalate remains to be seen.Two Sasquatch hunters were found dead after they went missing while searching for the mythical beast on Christmas Eve . The men, aged 37 and 59, were found after a 60-strong volunteer search and rescue team joined authorities in the Gifford Pinchot National Forest in Washington State . They had intended to be home for Christmas Day, but a family member reported them missing to Skamania County authorities after they didn’t return by the morning. Police said the harsh weather conditions and their ill-preparedness for the forest contributed to the men’s deaths. Seven law enforcement agencies and the Coast Guard used canines, drones, ground teams and helicopters to locate them. “Their exhaustive search efforts resulted in bringing family members home to their loved ones,” the sheriff’s office said of the search teams. The force extended their “deepest sympathies and condolences to the families” involved. Kieran Culkin once got Mark Ruffalo high while on the job after switching out a prop joint with the real thing. In a profile with The Guardian published Saturday, Culkin recalled the prank his 17-year-old self concocted while starring alongside Ruffalo in an off-Broadway play in 2000, and explained that he “just watched” as Ruffalo took a draw of the “fake” joint before passing it to his co-stars on stage. “I’m like, ‘I thought this was a good prank. I’m stupid. Oh my God, I’m so sorry.’ But actually, they loved it,” Culkin remembered. “Mark says, ‘I haven’t smoked pot in 10 years; the second half’s going to be so much fun.’ There was this other actor who had never smoked pot in her life. She goes, ‘Is this what being high is? This is lovely.’ And then Phyllis Newman comes in and goes, ‘I haven’t smoked pot since the 1960s. Thank you, darling.’” The Succession star proceeded to express that he was “17 and stupid” and added, “I’m 42 now. I know better. I’m not going to try to get anyone high on stage.” Scouted selects products independently. 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And the sale is not just for women; the gents’ and kids’ sections are equally full of additional savings. Loved ones of Hudson Meek, the teen actor who died in a car accident last week, gathered to celebrate his life on Saturday. The “celebration of life” service, held at a Baptist church in Homewood, Alabama, was livestreamed on the Baby Driver star’s Instagram. Several of the loved ones shared their favorite memories of the 16-year-old, and a choir sang in tribute. Fans expressed their appreciation for the service and their condolences in the comment section. “Wonderful celebration of Hudson’s life,” wrote user @melindaeubankswest, while @jeanniecmom added, “Praying for Hudson’s family at this difficult time. Fellow teen actor Grace Culwell shared in the comments that she was in attendance, writing: ”Such a beautiful service & so glad we were able to be there. Sending so much love & prayers to you all.” Meek died on Dec. 21 in from injuries sustained during a fall from a moving car on Dec. 19 in his hometown, Vestavia Hills, Alabama. Meek was known best for appearing in the 2017 crime movie Baby Driver alongside Ansel Elgort, Jon Hamm and Jamie Foxx. A post shared by Hudson Meek (@hudsonmeek) Andy Cohen’s biggest gripe with CNN star and New Year’s Eve partner-in-crime Anderson Cooper? Cooper’s annual giggle fit. Cohen explained to People why the anchor’s unceasing laughter adds extra chaos throughout their annual special. “Well, [it’s] that I have to be the straight guy,” Cohen said. “Literally, he’s in a puddle of giggles for the last 90 minutes of the broadcast, and I’m the one that’s hitting all the commercial breaks.” Cohen said he turns “into Mr. CNN for the last 90 minutes” while Cooper becomes “Mr. Bravo.” “It’s a very funny role reversal,” the Bravo star said. 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But when he sold it for $17.7 billion in 2015, it supplied cable TV to over three million households in the New York metropolitan area, the Times reported. He also launched HBO in the early ’70s—it was at the time a pioneering cable TV channel that offered feature-length movies with no commercials. After his death, Dolan’s family will continue to be a powerful and influential force in the worlds of media and sports. His son Patrick is the owner of Newsday , the Long Island-based newspaper he and Charles bought in 2016. The family also owns MSG in New York City and the professional sports teams that play there, the NHL’s Rangers and the NBA’s Knicks. All three entities are led by Dolan’s son James. Tina Knowles sprang to her daughter Beyoncé’s defense after online trolls criticized her NFL halftime show performance on Christmas Day. Knowles clapped back at critics by reposting a message about her famous daughter on her Instagram on Friday. In the screenshot, user @iamkrisiman praised Beyoncé and wrote that “no matter how undeniably talented you are, people will always, ALWAYS, always have some negative ish to say.” Knowles cosigned the post in a lengthy caption. “It is mind-boggling to me that you would take your precious Christmas day and watch a performance of someone you hate and you don’t think has talent so that you can go talk ish about it later,” she wrote. “Obviously you are so obsessed with them, addicted to them, and secretly admire them,” she added. According to the New York Post, Knowles’ post came after some social media users called Beyoncé “overrated.” Fans and celebrities in the comments of Knowles’ response seemed to love her mama bear energy. “Period!!! Ms. T,” singer LeToya Luckett wrote. “All. Of. This!!!!!!” Oscar winner Octavia Spencer added. A post shared by Tina Knowles (@mstinaknowles) Elon Musk appeared to borrow a line from the 2008 film Tropic Thunder in an ongoing social media fight about H1B visas. Musk hit back against MAGA’s top players in a series of X posts, alleging that H1B visas are the reason why he, “and hundreds of other companies that made America strong,” are in the country. To a skeptical X user, Musk blasted: “Take a big step back and F--- YOURSELF in the face. I will go to war on this issue the likes of which you cannot possibly comprehend.” Although some were shocked by Musk’s sudden escalation—with former Trump strategist Steve Bannon calling him a “toddler”—others noticed that the disparaging remark was similar to a line in Tropic Thunder . Character Les Grossman, played by Tom Cruise, says in the film: “First, take a big step back, and literally, F--- YOUR OWN FACE ... I don’t know what kind of pan-pacific bulls--t power play you’re trying to pull here, but Asia, Jack, is my territory. So whatever you’re thinking, you’d better think again.” In response to Musk’s comment, the X user tweeted, “Bro was just memeing. I wouldn’t take it too seriously.” Nothing beats the classics pic.twitter.com/MRSdXifhH5 Charles Shyer, the writer-director best known for directing the 1991 Steve Martin comedy Father of the Bride has died at 83. According to Deadline, Shyer died Friday and no cause of death was given by his family in a statement. “His loss leaves an unfillable hole in our lives, but his legacy lives on through his children and the five decades of wonderful work he’s left behind. We honor the extraordinary life he led and know there will never be another quite like him,” his family told the outlet. In addition to directing, Shyer gained notoriety for his screenwriting and nabbed an Oscar nomination in 1981 for co-writing the Goldie Hawn-led military comedy Private Benjamin alongside Harvey Miller, and fellow writer-director Nancy Meyers. Meyers and Shyer married in 1980 before calling it quits in 1999. They share two daughters. Other notable films co-written by Shyer include Jumpin’ Jack Flash , The Parent Trap , and Baby Boom , which he also directed. His most recent credit behind the camera was co-writing and directing the 2023 Netflix Holiday film Best. Christmas. Ever. Scouted selects products independently. If you purchase something from our posts, we may earn a small commission. 2025 is quickly approaching, and there’s no better way to celebrate the new year than with 2024’s cocktail du jour—the espresso martini. It’s the perfect way to toast 2025 with sophistication, flavor, and an energy boost. Think you can’t make the buzzy beverage at home because you’re not a bartender? Think again. You can create this beloved cocktail effortlessly with just a cocktail shaker, fresh espresso, vodka, coffee beans, and Mr Black Cold Brew Coffee Liqueur . It all starts in the land Down Under—Australia. 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Magnus Carlsen, a five-time World Chess Champion, was competing in New York’s FIDE World Rapid and Blitz Chess Championships on Friday when he was asked to change. According to The Telegraph , Carlsen was first fined $200 for breaking the wardrobe rule before being told he would have to leave if he didn’t change. “I said, ‘I’ll change tomorrow if that’s OK.’ I didn’t even realize it today, but they said, ‘Well you have to change now.’ At that point it became a bit of a matter of principle for me,” Carlsen told chess outlet Take Take Take in an interview. “Honestly, I am too old at this point to care too much. If this is what they want to do,” he added. As for why he wore the jeans in the first place, Carlsen said he had little time to change before the tournament as he was coming from a meeting. The grandmaster made light of the debacle on X where he tweeted a photo of the now notorious jeans. “OOTD,” he captioned the snap. OOTD pic.twitter.com/9reOP6zuJv Gossip Girl star Chanel Maya Banks , who made headlines last month after denying her family’s claims that she had gone missing, has filed a restraining order against her mother and cousin. The 36-year-old submitted the request in Los Angeles on Thursday, alleging her mom, Lutchmin Judy Kumar, and cousin, Danielle Singh have harassed her, TMZ reported. The actor also claimed that her mother and cousin were working to destroy her credibility. In October, Banks’ family reported her missing. She denied the claims in a post days later. Banks wrote in the restraining order filing that Kumar and Singh broke into her apartment in November while she was gone and attacked her husband. She also alleged that an Apple AirTag was put on her car to track her. After the attack, she alleged that her mother and cousin accused her husband of murder and said that Banks should be in a psychiatric hold. Sources told TMZ that they’re happy she is safe and are “moving on with their lives.”SHE is tipped for a starring role on the This Morning sofa having wowed viewers with forthright opinions on misogyny and sex. And former reality star Ashley James has shown how much fans can relate to her — by sharing intimate personal battles to help others. Ashley always makes it clear that no subject is off-limits. Now the presenter has bravely revealed she went through eight months of anguish following the birth of her son, Alfie , now three — because she could not make love with her partner, advertising executive Tom Andrews. Ashley, 37, who is also mum to Ada, one, said: “I had this kind of caveman expectation of Tommy. “You know, ‘Man needs sex .’ And six months went by, seven months, eight months, and sometimes I would try, and then he’d be like, ‘Oh my God, are you crying?’. READ MORE ON ASHLEY JAMES “I would say, ‘It just really hurts’. “He was like, ‘Oh my God, I don’t want to hurt you’. “It was the first time it dawned on me that men aren’t just these dudes demanding sex.” With typical frankness, she reveals her first experience of childbirth caused a number of “mortifying” health issues including incontinence and pain. On the Made By Mammas podcast, Ashley explains how her pain was caused by a condition called vaginismus, which affects many women. It was caused by the trauma of childbirth , and she went to see a private pelvic health physio. Most read in News TV She said: “Basically, all your muscles stiffen up and you can’t control it, but it’s so simple to fix. "All she did was a couple of massages and it was like healed.” ‘I blamed myself’ Ashley’s career is now going from strength to strength, just like her relationship with Tom. Last week we revealed she is screen- testing to be a host on This Morning and has already filmed with several male presenters as producers attempt to turn around a ratings slump. The influencer is already a regular commentator on the ITV show. She recently impressed when she took OnlyFans star Bonnie Blue to task for bragging about sleeping with “barely legal, 18-year-olds”. Ashley’s condemnation of the sex worker, 25, for targeting teens and encouraging misogynistic views was applauded by viewers , with one commenting: “I’m so glad Ashley is pulling this woman up.” It also got the programme back into the headlines for the right reasons following the departure of scandal-hit co-hosts Holly Willoughby and Phillip Schofield . However, Ashley’s spikey exchange with Blue was clearly not only driven by her desire to win a permanent place on the This Morning sofa. For she revealed on the podcast she had been assaulted by a friend at university — and later wrongly blamed herself. She said: “I was hypersexualised as a 14-year-old girl, but made to feel like that was my problem. “What that did is, when I was at university, something happened without my consent, which I have never really talked about yet. “I blamed myself because I was like, ‘That was my fault because of my outfit, because I was drunk, because I put myself in that situation’ — and I didn’t tell anyone. “I blamed myself and the worst thing is, because I was such a people pleaser, I even wanted that person to still like me and be my friend. "What we now know is, the more you tell young girls, ‘Don’t dress like that, your skirt’s too short’, what we’re doing is saying, ‘It’s up to you that men are going to sexualize your body, so you have to dress accordingly’. “Ultimately, we know that men will murder women, whether they are dressed appropriately or not, whether they take the right journey home or not, whether they get a taxi, whether they walk through the park. There is no difference between a man and a woman’s sexual appetite, apart from the fact that, socially, men are allowed to be sexual beings and women aren’t “It doesn’t matter how we dress or what we do or whether we are drunk or not. It doesn’t and shouldn’t matter because actually we should be saying to boys, ‘You shouldn’t sexually objectify women, you shouldn’t be ogling at women’.” Ashley argues that women have the same sexual appetite as men — but historically they just weren’t allowed to express it. On the female libido , she said: “Back in the day, there was this idea that because men had testosterone, they were more sexually active than women — and that men can’t help it if they have casual sex or cheat on their wives. “But now we know, because research is more advanced, actually there is no difference between a man and a woman’s sexual appetite, apart from the fact that, socially, men are allowed to be sexual beings and women aren’t. “So what was really interesting is they did all these different studies where they would, in some cases, ask men and women questions about their sex lives and whether they masturbate and all of those things, knowing that other people would find out. Then they did it again, asking people but saying this is completely confidential. “Women were the same, they were as sexual as men are. “If you’re constantly telling women, ‘Don’t be a s**t, men don’t like women who do this, be wifey material’, and all of those narratives we are told from a young age, it makes us feel like we are men’s property and we should be pure.” ‘Trolling really upset me’ Ashley’s forthright views are proving a breath of fresh air on This Morning and she has a background many viewers can relate to. Despite coming to public attention on the fourth series of Made In Chelsea in 2012 — the E4 show about privileged young Londoners — Ashley was living off her overdraft and putting on a posh accent. She was raised in a “small town in the North East” by parents she describes as “very Geordie” and got her first taste of the showbiz industry when she did some work experience at Radio Cumbria aged 16. Ashley appeared on Celebrity Big Brother in 2018 before becoming a DJ with gigs at top clubs such as London’s Ministry of Sound. In recent years she has been best known as a “mum influencer”, although Ashley considers the term “derogatory” and says it has led to online abuse . The trolling got so out of control last year that malicious followers reported her to social services for allegedly neglecting her children. The false accusation, which was unfounded and promptly dismissed, was that she had drunk too much at a party. Speaking on the Gentle Start podcast, Ashley said: “I was reported to social services for neglect, and it all came back to this online anonymous gossip website. “It really upset me. Like I said to the social worker, I know how loved my children are and I know that I’m such a good mum. “That’s one thing that I have never doubted.” Incredibly, just a few years ago Ashley had no interest in settling down or having children. She had been single for six years and was living her best “Carrie Bradshaw life”, when she reconnected with Tom on a dating app in 2019 having first met him at work a decade earlier. The couple now share a house in London with their two children. READ MORE SUN STORIES But Ashley is in no hurry to get hitched, explaining: “Long story short, I don’t like marriage . “If I choose you every day, I am with you because you make me happy.”NYPD Sergeant earning $200K busted for shoplifting cough medicine on Long Island